Bagaimana Jadi Pintar dan Tetap Rendah Hati?

Beberapa waktu lalu, saya mem-posting foto THE MENANTU(S) di Facebook.

Captionnya kayak gini nih:

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Instropection Challenge Day #3 dan Day #4


Yaaa, karena Idul Adha enggak kayak Idul Fitri,  jadinya yaaa… lempeng2 bae. Seharian cuman ngabisin waktu di pulau kapuk 🙂 Segarnyaaaaaaa *sambil mulet*

Kembali lagi ke tantangan instropeksi blog. Pertanyaan nomor 3 –> What’s your (usual) blogging process? 

Huuumm, BIASA AJA deh kayaknya. Ngadep laptop, googling sana-sini… Ngelamun dikit… Trus minum KOPI, nyemil, maem es krim… ketak-ketik tak tik tuk… voilaaaa… JADI DEH POSTINGANNYA 🙂

Karena pertanyaan ketiga amatlah BIASA WAE, mari kita lanjoooot ke pertanyaan nomor 4 –> What’s your favorite post?


Ya karena eikeh yang bikin bikin dewe penuh dengan percikan darah dan air mata maka semua postingan di blog ini pastinya paporit bingit dong yaaaa.

Apalagi para postingan yang menang lomba tuh, hehehee… Mayan banget euy. Iseng ketak-ketik-ketuk merangkai kata, Alhamdulillah wasyukurilah… Bisa menambah beberapa angka di rekening BCA eikeh yang sudah terlalu lama sendiri…. Sudah terlalu lama aku asyik sendiri… Tak ada yang menemani…. Saldonya….. 🙂 

Tapiiii, kalo aku tanya ke om Google, iseng-iseng nge-search dengan keyword bukanbocahbiasa, maka yang muncul adalah……


Kategori yang langsung terpampang nyata adalaaah… tentang FIKSI. Yep, fiksi alias cerita khayalan alias sekedar fatamorgana bukan sesuatu yang terpampang nyata *Dih, ini efek mabok kambingnya syahrince*

Padahal, saya AMAT SANGAT JARANG BANGET bikin postingan tentang Fiksi di blog ini. IMHO, bikin fiksi itu kan susah, yess? Apalagi, fiksi yang CETHAAAR, yang meninggalkan hikmah atau kesan mendalam bagi para pembacanya. Belum lagi karakter dalam fiksi yang kudu digali lebih dalam, dan karakter ini enggak boleh plin-plan. Pokoke kudu JELAS dan BEDA antara satu karakter dan karakter lain.

Karena itulah, saya bersyukur banget, bisa memproduksi fiksi bertajuk BIMBANG ini.

Yep… judul BIMBANG emang terinspirasi dari OST Ada Apa dengan Cinta, yang dinyanyikan Melly Goslaw. Dapeeeet banget feel-nya. Bisa kerasa kebimbangan yang menderu-deru di benak Cinta, manakala dia kudu milih antara Rangga atau bolo pleknya, dan atau cowok enggak penting yang juga PDKT ama doi ituh.

Oke, balik lagi ke postingan fiksi BIMBANG. Saya bikin sampai 8 episode 🙂 PANJAAAANG yak? Satu bagian terdiri dari kurleb 1200 kata. Well, ini artinya, saya memproduksi fiksi hingga…. *ambil sempoa dulu, kidding, kalkulator ding* 9600 KATA 🙂

Weeeeww… Ternyata saya bisa tho bikin fiksi sepanjaaaaaaang ituuuuh 🙂

Ini yang bikin takjub. Saban ada lomba Novel/ Cerita Bersambung whatsoever, saya udah ngibarin bendera putih, kalah sebelum berperang. Tapii, ternyata kalo dicicil, sesuatu yang keliatan MUSTAHIL BINGITS ternyata juga bisa tereksekusi yak.

Yep, like they say… IMPOSSIBLE means I’M POSSIBLE 🙂

Udah gitu, saya juga lumayan bersyukur dengan respon para pembaca. Harap maklum, fiksioner ala-ala… haus komentar pembaca hihihi. Mayoritas bilang, ending dari fiksi BIMBANG ini unpredictable. Nyaris enggak ada yang mengira bahwa konflik Ibu ASI bakal terbawa di fiksi ini. Yang tadinya yakin banget bahwa Salma akan menikah dengan Raditya… akhirnya terperangah dengan ending cerita. Ihiiirrr!! Aku kan jadi maluuuuu 😛

Nah, sekarang saya pengin ngembangin tokoh Raditya di fiksi lainnya (ceritanya, dibikin spin off gitu lo). Judulnya, SANG MANTAN. Tapiii, ternyata bikin semacam spin-off sama sekali enggak gampil yak *lap kringet* Apalagi, saya sulit nemuin CONTOH NYATA laki-laki yang semacam Raditya ntuh.

Ya wis. Sampe detik ini, fiksi SANG MANTAN saya nyatakan belum layak tayang di blog ini, wekekekekeke 🙂

Eh, eh… gimana dengan teman-teman? Apa postingan favorit di blog selama ini? Ataaau, mungkin mau ada yang seseruan ikutan 15-day-Blogging-Instropection-Challenge?

Yuuuuk, mareee 🙂

[#EF13] I Choose Youtube Aerobic

Okay, thanks God, finally I can join BEC challenge again… Yayy for this…. **blowing confetti**

Talking about my favorite sport, off course it’s aerobics. Especially aerobics from youtube. Why? Because it’s very cheap! It only cost unlimited Wi-Fi subscription fee, and I can choose a lot of aerobics videos.

I’ve posted about it (in Indonesian) you can read here

Another reason why I choose at home aerobics, because I can remove my hijab. You know, it’s never easy, going to sports club, doing fitness activity with hijab on your head, and all those long clothes.

I think that’s all. I can’t make it longer anyway 😦 If you want to join English Friday weekly challenge, please go here.

[EF#6] Again, About Alter Ego

Just in case you haven’t read my previous post about “Alter Ego” in Indonesian, let me tell you, that I have to confess : I have more than an alter ego.

I could be very calm. In another time, you can see me as a very sharp-tounged mommy. While I’m in “a trance condition”, I could be the one that I myself can’t recognize “Who am I? Is it really @nurulrahma?”

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However, I should be grateful for having this plural egos. As a blogger/ freelance writer/ columnist, imaginations is very very important things. Life is never flat. Because I can see all the circumstances, with various point of views.

For example, when I go to a food court with my family, at weekends. Lot of people overthere. We want to be served as quick as possible. A little bit ‘chaos’ here and there. Some people yelled, “Where is my dish???” “What a very sloooow waiter?” “Come on!! I’m hungry and you guys still have not cook my meals yet?”

My egos will say:

As an angel wanna-be: “Oh my God. Please be patient, guys. Let the chef and waiters do their best. Don’t expect too much. Everybody’s going here for having fun, right? Please… calm down…

As a careless person: “None of my business!”

As a kepo (knowing every particular objects) person: “Ummm… by the way, why that guy intimidates the waiter? Is he that rich and powerfull enough? Or… he thinks he’s the (kind of) twitter-warrior, who can invite another guy to fight at GOR Istora Senayan? :p”

As a terrible and sharp-tounged-lady:  “What the f**ksss!! Do you think everybody will support you, hey bast**rd!! We don’t care whether you got your dish as quick as you wish or not, but heiiii, please bear in mind, that everybody’s seeking happiness right now!! And you just screw it up!”

As the “real ego” @nurulrahma: “Just count my blessings. I’m not that waiter. I’m not that mad customer. I can go here with my family, order a yummy meal, enjoy my weekends. I just feel free… **dancing ala Syahrini**


Thanks to my “alter egos”. They drive me a little bit “crazy”, but I enjoy them so much. At some points, I can be cheerful and feel so sad at the same time. Maybe some people consider it as a anomaly, but I’m fine with that J

While joining BEC and writing this post, my egos always debate each other. Some said, “Come on, why you should join this blog club? There is no advantage for you! You work at a local foundation, it does’nt need the English skill at all! Besides, you no longer practice your English, and it’s impossible if you can beat those challenges!!”

But, finally, I can beat this ego. And my “angel wanna be” said, ”Just do it! No matter what, just develop your post and show it to the world! It always seems impossible until its done.”

[EF#5] BEC is My Superhero

There is no comfort in growth zone, and there no growth in comfort zone. 

I’m absolutely agree with that quote. When we feel comfortable with current condition, ask yourself, what kind of growth/development that you’ve got? Nothing, eh?

In terms of blogging, I found that blogging in Indonesian is my super-duper-comfort zone. I can catch up the issue, the-unnecessary-thoughts that almost explode my head, and write it down in an Indonesian post, in my own blog. That’s soooo…. stress-relieving 🙂 Continue reading “[EF#5] BEC is My Superhero”

Carpe Diem

This is the most determined thing I’ve ever made in the beginning of 2015. I join Blogger English Club (BEC)! Oh my God, could I survive in completing all those challenges? Could I keep posting an English articles every Friday? Hahahaa… Time will tell. 🙂

As Dani said, the theme for today’s BEC challenge is… What is your word for 2015?! 

Instead of resolution, the word can be your theme for the year, anything you plan this year may (or may not) based on the spirit of the word.

Uhhhmmm *thinking*. Well, frankly speaking, I have no ideas about what is my 2015 theme. I’m not the one that always come up with a list of targets, resolutions, what-so-ever, I’m not a detailed person. I just do what I want to do, I just say what I want to say… Like previous years, I just try living my life normally, seize the day, enjoy the moment, wait… it’s like… Carpe Diem

Yup. That’s how I should make my day!

“Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You’re going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.”
Anthony Robbins

Well said, Robbins! Life recently drive some people become more ambitious. We want these, we want those, we want everything in this world! Unfortunately, we’re getting nowhere, because we have lot of dreams, but lack of skills or passion for getting those things. It’s getting worse, because for the sake of fulfilling our ambitions, we totally forget “our heaven” in this world. Working hard for getting more money, going to get some overtime schedules to boost up our working-performance, and… we forget that our family needs us. Our kids really need our presence. In terms of quality and  amount. So sad, eh?


Well, I’m not going to judge anyone. I just wanna make a #selftalk. My kid often complaining why I’m so hectic and so happy while working with the gadget; but rare to TALK with him?

“A real talks, not just ‘How was your day? What’s your homework?’ I want mommy chat with me. Let’s chatting, in this real world,” Sidqi says, slap me right in my heart 😦

So, let’s do something better this year. Instead of (always) having busy with all the achievements-things, I’d like to become “a real person”. Always mingle with a real families, having better interactions with real friends, and of course, this is the hardest: stop complaining about the “bad” things. Bad in quote-in-quote, because sometimes, our “bad” is “good” based on God’s scenario.

But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (QS Al-Baqoroh 216)

Sooo, cheer up! Enjoy the moments, feel the breeze, capture the joyful things, share the happiness, and welcome 2015…! Be nice to us…! Have a GREAT YEAR, everyone…!

PS: Doh. kemringet eikeh bikin postingan inih! Daniii… Mas Ryaaaan… Mba Nitaaa…!! Kalian bertiga kudu tanggungjawab karena menjerumuskan dirikuh ke ‘kegilaan’ ini, bwahahhaahaaa…!

Favorite Inspiring Quote

Selamat datang di tantangan hari ke-2. 

Temanya: Favorite Inspiring Quote. Duh. Kalau ngomongin quotes, kagak ada habisnya lah. SEMUA Quote Rasulullah, saya cinta banget! Enggak ada yang mubadzir. Semua diucapkan dengan presisi dan selalu relevan hingga kini. Ya iyalah. Semua ucapan beliau selalu ‘di-quality control’ oleh Allah. 

Eniwei, di luar sabda Rasul, ada beberapa quote yang membantu banget dalam menjalani hidup yang penuh riak-duri-onak-gelombang-menerjang ini. Ada kalanya saya ngerasa sedih tak berujung. Dan, quote ini membantu banget, supaya saya bisa BANGKIT dari kubur. Ihiks. 


Apa sih definisi Happiness? 

Uhm. Yakin banget lah, semua orang tentu punya jawaban yang beda-beda. 

Kalo definisi ‘happiness’ ditanyakan kepada seorang @nurulrahma ketika masih berusia 10-an, 20-an tahun, tentu beda dengan jawaban ketika saya berumur 30-an. Beda juga ketika saya umur 40, atau 50, atau 60 (jika Allah masih memperpanjang masa kehidupan saya, tentunya)

Di umur 10, definisi ‘happiness’ buat saya adalah: bisa naik eskalator di Sinar Supermarket. Atau, main boneka-bonekaan. Atau, main gobak sodor, bola bekel, benteng-bentengan…..that simple! *gampangan banget emang jadi bocah*

Kalo di umur 20-an, tentu ‘happiness’ saya mulai bergeser. Saya baru happy kalau IP di atas 3 koma sekian. Kalau saya bisa dapat duit dari kerjaan freelance/ part time. Kalo gebetan saya tiba2 ngajak ngobrol asik, nraktir di kafe cihuy, ngajak nonton pilem, semacam itulah. Khas anak2 ABG. 

Di umur 30. Tentu happiness adalah ketika kita punya keluarga yang begitu kompak, saling sayang, ber-azzam kuat untuk mencintai Allah dan melaksanakan semua syariat Islam…. Plus, punya duit segambreng, jadi enggak perlu mikir2 banyak kalo mau belanja-belanji. Hahaha. That’s happiness. Mulai ‘banyak maunya’, rempong dan complicated. 


Masalahnya, sometimes, happiness kita tercerabut. Seperti yang pernah aku alami di umur 20-an. Punya karir moncer. Public Relations di sebuah korporasi multinasional. Naik pesawat plus nginep di hotel berbintang. Bikin Press conference, de es be… de es be. Gaji? Wuah. Lebih-lebih-lebiiiih dari cukup pake banget!

That’s my happiness (at that time)

Kemudian, tiba-tiba happiness itu tercerabut. Ough! Tentu, rasanya sakit. Saya mengajukan resign, tapiii… sebenarnya saya belum siap buat resign. Saya resign karena harus ngurus anak. Saya resign karena ingin merawat ‘happiness’ saya yang lain.

Somehow, I really miss kerjaan itu, tentu saja. Sering banget saya menggalau, why God closed my previous happiness?  Dan, quote di atas itulah yang jadi pelipur hati yang berduka. Saya punya happiness yang lain. Gapapa ketika satu pintu kebahagiaan ketutup, karena saya punya BANYAK kebahagiaan yang lain. BANYAK. BANYAK. BANYAAAAAAK. BANGET. 

“Dan jika kamu menghitung-hitung nikmat Allah, niscaya kamu tak dapat menentukan jumlahnya.” (QS. An-Nahl: 18).

Yes, agree! Absolutely! 

Kita ga pernah minta oksigen…. Allah sudah sediakan untuk kita….

Kita ga pernah minta punya mata, hidung, telinga, tangan, kaki…. Semua sudah Allah berikan untuk kita…..

Rasanya terlalu durhaka kalau kita hanya mengingat ujian berupa hal buruk dalam hidup. Terlalu banyak hal baik yang kudu kita syukuri. Oke. Saya tutup postingan kali ini dengan lirik lagu “Happy” by Mocca. Really love this band. 

★Life is just a bowl of cherries
Sometimes it’s sweet or filled with worries
Dont be afraid when things go wrong, just be strong.
When thing seems up in the air
And everything is so unfair
And u stumble and fall
Just pick ur self up and sing
★★If one day you lose ur way, Just
 remember one thing, my friend
When u’re under a cloud
Just face the music and sing
If one day u lose ur way, Just
remember that im here to stay
Dont u give up, Keep u chin up
And be happy
★ Repeat
★★ Repeat
If one day u lose ur way just
remember one thing my friend
When u re under a cloud
Just face the music and dance
If one day u lose ur way Just
remember that im here to stay
Dont u give up, Keep ur chin up
Dont u give up, Keep ur chin up
And be happy